Deana on Life's Stories

It is true, our lives are simply a compilation of stories. Each one of us gets to be the author of our own life's stories. It is easy to lose sight of this when things seem to be going wrong. We may feel like we are simply being written in as the main character in a terribly depressing, or scary horror novel, by some warped higher being or purpose.

It is just as easy to take the credit when things are going good. We are quick to take the credit for the story line, bringing all the characters together, the exciting climax, and of course the happy ending.

The point is regardless of what circumstances are presented to us, we get to take whatever action we choose. We can rise to the challenge, overcome, and be the hero of the story or we can choose to cower in the corner and hope that we will be rescued by someone else who is more hero worthy.

Not only do we create our stories, we also get to choose how we recall them. We can concentrate on all the negative parts of the memory, or choose to remember the heartfelt moments and happy endings.

A personal example of this is recently when my sister and brother-in-law were visiting, Perry and I were talking about all the adversity that we have been through in the past 5 years. We went through hardship of some kind each year, either major health problems for Perry or a death of one of our parents. We remembered each year based on the bad thing that happened in that year.

My brother-in-law politely pointed out that we needed to find some other way to recall those years. I realized that during that time period we had also managed to do a great deal of traveling. We now choose to remember those years based on the great trips we took each year.

Bottom line, it is day one, the page is blank, the pen is in your hand. You decide the who, what, when, where and how. It is up to you to make it the best story ever written.

Perry on Life's Stories

Our lives consist of a compilation of stories. From our earliest ability to recollect, we recall in stories. These stories are the root of our limiting beliefs, about how money doesn't grow on trees, how we think of our relationships, how we have acted on our promptings of gratitude or any other belief that we have.

Whenever we gather at a graduation reunion, a wedding, a house party or a funeral it is inevitable that the conversation will turn to -- hey do you remember when..........? Take a moment and think about your favorite memory, your first car, your first kiss or your first expression of anger. Any of these will trigger a story in your mind. If you were to talk about any of them it would be in the form of a story.

This is no different than your mind's ability to think in pictures. That is inevitable as well. If I ask you about the Statue of Liberty you will have no other ability than to picture it. If I ask you to think of your first childhood memory it will be in the form of a story.

Just like we can control how our mind pictures things, we can control the stories of our lives. Allowing yourself to steer what is happening to you in a positive mindset will allow you to have a positive story about whatever the occasion is.

Positive Mindsets equal Positive Stories!!

Perry on Commitment versus Fear

I did go on that trip, but not in spite of my fear of heights. I went on that trip to watch and witness the fun and excitement that I knew Deana and Courtney were going to have. They probably would never have gone had I not went with them. Nothing warms my heart more than knowing that the people I love the most are having fun. Combine that with an absolute knowing that the staff at Canada's Wonderland were never going to let me on those rides.

Having said that I did participate in one, just to say that I did. It was the Pirate Ship. Courtney and I sat in the back of a big Pirate Ship that simply went forwards and backwards for a couple of minutes which occasionally gave that feeling in your stomach that you get when you drive too fast down over a hill. You know the one, where you feel like your stomach stayed up top and fell when you reached the bottom. Yup I paid for that. It was however worth every dime because it was with my daughter and I knew Deana was waiting for us when we got off.

I knew that the other rides were out of the question, especially when I was riding around in my wheel chair with my prosthetic leg exposed. I never even had to tell anyone that I had a heart condition, even though I was prepared to if it came down to it.

We have called this commitment versus fear yet I believe that once we make a commitment, and we truly have the burning desire to accomplish that end result, we can use our fear to our advantage. I believe it was Zig Ziglar that originally used the acronym of False Evidence Appearing Real for the word fear. Now I am not one to criticize or say that a world renowned trainer such as Mr. Ziglar is off base but I believe that in order to really use our Fear to our advantage we have to consider it a little differently. That is why I use the acronym of Focused Energy Achieves Results.

If you are truly committed to someone, something or an accomplishment put real Focused Energy into it and you will achieve the desired Result!

Deana's take on Commitment versus Fear

Last summer, Perry, his daughter (Courtney) and I went to Toronto to visit family. Both Courtney and I (being the avid roller coaster lovers that we are) decided that a day at Canada's Wonderland was absolutely necessary. Perry (being the good sport that he is) came with us despite his fear of heights. Turns out it was great to have him there to hold onto our purses for us while my step-daughter and I spent the day riding the many roller coasters the park has to offer.

Canada's Wonderland is the home of the tallest and fastest roller coaster in Canada (the Behemoth), one can see it from miles away. On route to the park in the morning when we saw the roller coaster, I made the decision that I was going to ride the Behemoth by the end of the day. That was my commitment. Courtney agreed to ride it with me. It didn't make any sense to come all this way and not ride the tallest roller coaster in Canada. As we got closer and closer, the Behemoth got bigger and bigger as did our fear.

Once we got there, I was so scared and excited that I wanted to ride the Behemoth first in order to conquer my fear and enjoy the rest of the day, Courtney did now share this line of reasoning. She thought that it would be better to start with the smaller coasters and work our way up to the Behemoth. It literally took me all day go get her to commit to go on the ride.

Once we made it to the front of the two hour line up, we began to get really scared. We decided that we did not want to be near the front of the roller coaster, and we did not want to be separated, at which time the young man called us to our seats in the second row of the ride with about a three foot gap between us and nothing in front of us. We were then strapped in and ready for take off, we were now at the point of no return, we were committed.

As we began our 250 foot painfully slow ascent into the sky (or so it seemed), the fear of the inevitable 75 degree descent at 125 km/h which was soon to follow was overwhelming. As we reached the top of our climb, I remember seeing Courtney tug at her harness while she yelled out "I want to get off, I don't want to do this!".

It made me really appreciate why these rides must be equipped in ways so that the passengers cannot undo the harnesses that strap them in. Imagine how many deaths there would be everyday if people had the ability to go back on their commitment due to their fear.

If we allow it, fear can stop us from reaching our goals every time. Only until we are truly committed, 100%, strapped in, point of no return, can we conquer the fear and reach our goals. True commitment beats fear every time.

Of course the end result of our Behemoth ride was that not only did it end safely, but the second time around the track, Courtney had her hands up in the air smiling and laughing the whole way. Mission accomplished, fear a distant memory!

Deana's take on the Law of Attraction

Much like Perry, I have been really focusing on sending out positive vibrations. By sending a truly heart felt card everyday through our website, I have been able to accomplish this. It is amazing how great it has make me feel, for so many reasons.


First, when I send the card, I feel good just simply because I am reaching out to someone I care about. Second, I am sending out the heartfelt message without an expectation of receiving anything in return (a truly self-less act). Honestly, it was hard for me at first to realize that not everyone I sent a card to would at least call and thank me.

Third, the responses I did receive were so filled with sincere gratitude that this made me want to send out even more. Once I started to receive the phone calls from the people who had received their heartfelt cards, I realized how easy and simple it truly is to have a positive impact on another's life. This creates a snowball affect as they then share that positivity with myself and/or others. I know now that it is ok even if I don't hear from them at all, as I know in my heart that in most cases they are paying it forward.

Fourth, these cards have given me the ability to reconnect and re-establish relationships that had drifted apart and also create new relationships with great people. I find myself looking for other ways to make a connection and to send out positive messages to others. This can be anything from sending an email to a co-worker to compliment their hard work, or reaching out to a friend in need.

Whatever the method it doesn't matter, as long as the focus is on sending out those positive vibrations; the universe truly does pay you back in strange, wonderful and unexpected ways.

Perry's take on the Law of Attraction

Someone said to me the other day that the Law of Attraction is a secondary Law of the Universe. This made me go hhhmmmmm..... You know how sometimes things make you think about your belief structure. This statement made me seriously look at how I think about the Law of Attraction. They said that the Law of Attraction is just one of the Laws of Vibration. Hmmmmm I said once more.

I have been thinking about if for days now, actually rethinking the way I look at it. This is a good thing because I realized that I was not using the Law of Attraction to my benefit. I realized that I was simply learning about it and not applying it. Whether it is a secondary Law or not did not matter. I was learning that I get back whatever I put out there, whether negative or positive.

As a point of interest, when I taught or spoke about the Law of Attraction I always used to say whether positive or negative and then someone else said, why do you end that statement on a negative. She pointed out that having the word negative at the end made her think negatively. I now say whether negative or positive.

As I was giving all this new thought into the whole thing I read Kody Bateman's take on it from his book Promptings -- a must read by the way. It is because of this chapter that I realized that all I have been doing is learning and not applying. He says that you can learn all about it, listen to all the audios, read all the books but unless you are doing something every day to trigger the positive vibrations then you are only learning, not applying.

I have the perfect tool at my disposal to trigger the positive vibrations in order to activate the Law of Attraction. Our network marketing business allows me to activate positive feelings, emotions and vibrations with the click of a button. I simply log on to the system, choose a card that reflects the feelings and emotions that I want to put out to the "universe" and send it to someone that is having a positive impact on my life, and there are tons of them. Unfortunately, I am no different than most people and I tend to ignore the promptings.

Every card I send instills a positive vibration, a positive feeling and most of all the vibrations and feelings get transmitted to the recipient of the card as soon as I hit the send button. When the card is received, the envelope is opened and the card is read by the person the entire vibration gets released once again.

Go to the site -- send a free card by clicking on the banner -- release the positive vibrations to the universe and to the person you send the card to. It is a process that will lead to a better day and we all deserve a better day!!

"In Nature, there are neither rewards nor punishments. There are consequences."

~~ Robert Greene Ingersoll

Perry on Change.......

Finally I am taking, at least what I feel to be the right steps to complete the change I want to happen in my life. These steps are not easy for some reason, I truly wish they were. Up until recently I was feeling like I was letting myself and my family down, like I had taken 3 steps forward and 10 steps back. No fun being 7 steps behind where you feel you should be.

I compare change to be like the Reality TV show "The Biggest Loser". I don't watch the show but as I listen to the avid fans of it I have come to realize that the biggest and most effective change requires the most work and effort. Apparently, the people on the show are required to do things that they never would have done, not in a million years. The diets, the exercise, the mental stamina to continue and the conviction to inflict the desired changes on their lives are incredible.

I think of a woman going through a pregnancy. Her body changes, her moods change and the entire process becomes trying and taxing on her. Things like losing 100 pounds, having a wonderful and healthy baby and creating a future and lifestyle that you desire takes an immense amount of dedication to the process. It is the process that creates the change.

Now that we are moved and slowly getting settled in our new home we are ecstatic. The process of getting here was extremely tough. Me unable to help as much as I would like and both Deana and I working around very busy schedules was taxing. The change however was worth it. Now we can concentrate on where we want to go next and the process, as trying and taxing it can be, of getting to where we want to be in our lives.

We are following our passions again, working our business again, getting back to both of us being able to work from home again and helping as many people as we can achieve all that they believe.